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To Overcome Challenges, Stop Comparing yourself to Other

Hello, Everyone! I am Najuma.

When you stop comparing yourself to others, you can accomplish great things, says wheelchair athlete Dean Furness. He shares how, after losing the use of his legs in an accident, he discovered a powerful new mindset focused on redefining his "personal average" and getting better little by little.

I would like to say about to overcome challenges, stop comparing yourself to others. Do you compare yourself with others? Stop comparing yourself.

We all compare ourselves from time to time to others, even unintentionally, and if not, someone else may compare us to others. Comparing yourself to others is not necessarily a bad thing. It could even be said that it is inevitable. The important thing is to be able to compare yourself without being negatively affected; Being able that, even if you compare yourself from time to time, has little importance and is not central in your life.

When we constantly compare ourselves to others, we stop feeling good and feel less empowered. By comparing yourself to someone else, you lose sight of everything you have to offer the world and a unique way that only you can do it. By overlooking this, it is easier for you to find stories where you tell yourself that you are not up to the task, that you are not good enough. All of this ends up increasing your stress level and preventing you from being able to express yourself creatively which, in turn, gives you more reason to feel disadvantaged when comparing yourself.

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In a recent TED talk, Wheelchair Athlete Dean Furness shared his real-life story of the accident that left him in a wheelchair. He explains what that experience taught him about “personal averages“. He shared his best advice for overcoming challenges and also the importance of not letting other people impact how we think about ourselves.

Dean Furness talks about how “comparing yourself with others” won’t help much towards finishing your challenges but rather achieving them by calculating your "average" and increasing it little by little.

Once I saw the title about this Ted talk, I got intrigued. I thought that he was going to state the obvious when he started, but instead it was all about finding yourself and trying to become better at who you are and what you do, rather than putting yourself in the comparison bubble where you are expected to achieve something greater than the person who seems to be two steps ahead of you.

Nobody is perfect. Although we know this on an intellectual level, emotionally we tend to feel bad when the results are not perfect. We are not perfect and we never will be, and this precisely makes us human. It is not about not making mistakes, it is about having a good attitude in the face of defeats and mistakes: so that we can learn. Comparisons are somewhat inconvenient precisely because it takes us away from the possibility of continuing to learn, and plunges us into a dynamic in which we create the illusion that our security comes from the fact that the other may be inferior to us.

To stop comparing yourself to others, you may want to think about your dream life. This may help you realize that everyone’s on a different path and that you should be creating your own path to reach happiness and success.

Thank you all for being here today and taking the time to patiently listen to what I had to say, I wish you all a blessed day.